Why Most People Fail to Achieve Their Goals

Ever reached a goal and still felt a bit underwhelmed. You’re not the only one. It’s usually not about setting goals. It’s about making them super specific. It’s like using a GPS, the wrong address gets you to the wrong place. Today, we’re talking about why the word goal might be misleading. It’s not just about writing down your dreams, it’s about making them such a strong desire that you feel bad if you’re not working towards them. Get ready to learn how to turn your goals into powerful burning desires that will push you forward. We’ll even cover the hard truths about why most people fail, and how a small change in mindset can fix years of disappointment. Ready to make success your own. Let’s do this.

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I set general goals and when I wouldn’t reach them, I think I did not achieve them to the extent that I could have if I actually set very specific, big, audacious goals. So the thing about goal setting, I think the word goal has a bad rep because most people who set goals don’t achieve them. I think it’s more about needing to know where you’re going. 

Kind of like a GPS, like you need to know specifically where you want to be going because the internal GPS you have built into your system will take you there. And if you’re not specific, you will not specifically get what you want for you kind of land in the area. And if you don’t know what even that area is, you won’t even get there. 

So if you don’t have a goal, you’re obsessing about a very specific one, you probably will not achieve it. And it’s not so much even about writing that goal down on paper, and calling the five closest friends you have and announcing it. It’s more about internally, having a very specific thing you want to have in life and believing with every fiber of your DNA, that every moment that you don’t have that in your life is a wasted life or is basically a painful moment, when you shift your attention that way, you will notice an incredible surge of motivation, and incredible progress made in a fraction of the time you ever thought possible. 

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Because then every action you start taking on a daily basis is actually governed by one question, is this getting me closer to whatever the My goal is? Or am I? Or is it indifferent? Or is it like moving, you know, taking me away from it? And so, you know, we all have an internal judgment system that governs our decision making. 

And so, you know, when people tell me, it’s like, I’ve been trying to make money online for 10 years on unsuccessfully, I can pretty much guarantee that the reason they’re not making money online is because of the not because of the guru of the month that they’ve been following not because of getting scammed on that Forex course, not because of anything, but really because of them, because apparently they make decisions every day, that lead to the same outcome. And that is not, you know, getting towards their dream online income. 

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And I think people are really good at avoiding these difficult decisions. And they’re really good at justifying their failures, which is part of why in the one sentence persuasion course why bother worrying? There is a portion that says to justify failures. Nobody likes being told that the reason they do not have what they want in life is because of them. 

You’re not going to listen to some dude on the internet that says you’re fat and broke because you’re lazy and stupid, right? You know, no one wants to hear that you will listen to somebody that says Look, you’re not making money because you haven’t been told about the right way to do it. You’re not making money because the system didn’t teach you because when you went to school, they taught you, you know, mathematics and literature instead of teaching you how money works, right? 

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This is like a way better way to communicate to a target customer than it is to say, Hey, you’re a lazy fat piece of you know, whatever. Although, to be fair, there are people who respond to that guarantee white key markets to CEOs and to like, really aggressive hardcore, and mostly male, overachievers. 

Now the thing with overachievers is that they self criticize all the time. Internally, they have a record that goes off all the time, that just criticizes them for not achieving enough for not being good enough for this department for not being good enough for that department. And so that’s just Gareth, knowing his market and joining the conversation that the customer already has in their mind by saying, Yeah, you haven’t hit your income goals for this year. 

Well, guess what, it’s your fault, you have been slacking, you know, and he’s like screaming that at somebody who’s making like seven figures, but the thing is that that person is making seven figures, once we make an eight figures, they finished the day off, and they’re like, I haven’t done enough today haven’t achieved enough today. 

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That’s like, knowing your market, right? For the most part. However, most people know they’re not like that, if they like, you know, joined the course on forex trading for five grand. And in the span of 30 days, they only went through the first two videos, and they didn’t even set up their Forex account. And then 30 days later, they’re like, watching Netflix and talking to their friend on the phone like, yeah, the Forex bullshit doesn’t work. Guess what I mean, that you kind of play a role in that right? You have to take some personal responsibility for decision making and say, Yeah, I joined a course and I did nothing with it. Because I was afraid of failure, because I found the whole idea very intimidating. I’ve never traded in my life before. And I don’t know the first thing about trading currencies and I got scared and got cold feet, most people will not admit that to themselves. 

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You see, that’s part of why it’s so important to set your specific goals because when you do and you truly commit to them, all the bullshit gets stripped, all this excuse making goes away. Like the moment achieving the goal becomes more important and finding blame or victimizing yourself, that’s when you go on you achieve it. Until then. 

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