The Ripple Effect of Helping Others

Have you ever met someone who ended up being really important in your life? A while back, I was helping people learn how to run their own businesses. I talked to someone from a small country called Moldova who wanted to join my program.
This guy had a tough time because he had a stroke that changed how he could work. Our first conversation didn’t just lead to him joining my program, it started a friendship that later helped my own family in a big way. Today, I’m going to share this story about how meeting the right person can change everything!

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Many moons ago, I had a coaching program where I was teaching people how to do agency play . And I was doing a sales call interview\sales call with a potential client. And this client is from a little Eastern European country called Moldova. It’s located between Ukraine and Romania. They’re famous for their wine, and pretty much that’s it. Yeah, they have incredible wine. You can drink it like water. It’s just something incredible.

So, this person, they were explaining to me why they wanted to get into, you know, this agency model, and, you know, I really felt like they’d be a great client. So this guy was coming off of a stroke, actually. So basically, he was a DJ and a host, hosting events. And I’m not sure exactly what happened there, but he had a stroke, in a sense, where his face, if you imagine, like a line across your face, like this, one side of his face all the muscles kind of dropped like they weren’t, you know what I mean. So one side of his face was normal, and the other side of his face was like dropped, kind of like lower, which prevented him from hosting events, naturally.

So he stuck to his DJing job, but that wasn’t enough to pay the bills, and so he took interest in other stuff. And that conversation ended with him wanting to join my coaching program, but not paying me to do that yet, but also with me asking him, what is like the ultimate thing that you want to accomplish? something that if you were to accomplish it, you’d know you’ve made it! This was a success!

He said, « I really want to take my family to Disney » and he meant the Disney World in France, okay? Because that’s closer than flying to LA or Florida for him. And I said, Okay. And how much money would that require? He said, « $500 would be enough to buy the Disney World tickets and the hotel and the flights for the three of us.”
And I’m not sure why, but I just had this urge to just give him that money. And I said, Can you give me your PayPal? Said, Sure, here, and I sent him $500 on the spot. I said, « Whether or not you joined the coaching program, I really want you to take your family to Disney World, just because I think it’s the right, it’s a great thing to do.”

Now, everything else that happened that day is a bit of a blur for me, but I had a conversation with him recently about this, and he said, Do you remember that I was crying? And I said, No, no recollection of that at all.

So he ended up taking his family to Disney World. He was very happy. He became a very successful student of mine Today he’s actually one of the coaches within my coaching program. He’s helping me coach people. He’s actually very good at that. He’s much better at coaching people than me. I’m great at telling my story. He’s great at actually coaching. And he still lives in Moldova.

And as I was sharing with you before we recorded, I kind of put my family in the situation with different visas and stuff with our relocation that they had to quickly leave the country where I’m staying right now, because their visa was expiring. And guess where they went? Yeah, where do they go? (Well, they went to France!)
No, they went to Moldova, the little country between Romania and Ukraine and there. And they stayed with this guy and his family.

So for the first 48 hours, he took them in, and they stayed! so my wife, two kids, He’s got a wife, he’s got two kids and a dog. And they stayed at their place. He said it was an honor for him to take my family in. And he’s been kind of care taking, I guess, for my family for the past seven days. They rented Airbnb and everything, but he still like watching over them! right! if you will.

And what’s incredible is that at the back then years ago, when I was talking to that guy, when I sent him the 500 bucks, I had no idea that that relationship will kind of come back to be so of so much value, especially considering that for the last five years or so, I haven’t spoken to him! Like we were not in touch or anything.

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But I guess what I’m trying to say with the story is that it’s not only that you can get an, you know, introduce to somebody who may become very influential in your life at some point, but it’s also how the relationship starts has everything to do with what may happen Within the framework of that relationship later!

Because my spontaneous generosity towards this person, quite literally, you know, saved well, it didn’t save my family, but it saved me a ton of money, like ideally I should have sent my family back to Canada, where I live, but that’s like, way more expensive. There would be far, far away from me, seven hour time zone difference

And now there is a 16 hour drive away, or a two hour flight, maybe one and a half hour flight away, not to mention that they’re being well taken care of and actually enjoying their stay over there. Because my daughter wants a dog, and he’s got a dog. The food is really great in Romania, the wines really in Moldova, the wine is really great. So all in all, it worked out great.

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So what I’m saying is this: Don’t just seek relationships and introductions to people who can be great friends, great partners, but also consider how you show up in that relationship from the very, very beginning. Yes, because that can play a huge role in how that relationship develops.

Because I can recall relationships where it didn’t start out well between me and the other person, not that, you know, we were mean to each other. For whatever reason, There wasn’t a real connection.

But then a few years down the road, we would reconnect, and then we would get the connection going, and that relationship would just go through a whole other to a whole other level!

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Like my good friend, Anthony McCarthy, for example, from Ireland. I’ve known him for many years. He’s in the same sort of joint venture circuit as me, and we’ve sort of known the same people, but we weren’t close with him for up until maybe two years ago, okay, but then we had a mutual interest. We connected, and then we connected on a level where he now calls me son. I mean, He’s much older than me. He’s probably your age, so he’s got four boys all grown up, all my age and but now I’m like a son to him, and he’s like, like a dad to me.

And we talk every day. We do both, like business projects together as well as personal stuff. He helped me out financially, in a tremendous sense, helped me a whole lot.
Recently, I helped him because he ran into some trouble. So I immediately came, came, you know, showed up and said, If you need help, just let me know. And he’s very proud. So it wasn’t easy to convince him to actually, you know, get help.

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But my point is this, I wouldn’t like five years ago, seven years ago, I wouldn’t say that my relationship with him would be influential. Or super meaningful in my life, but today, it is

So if you do have relationships that you can recall where things didn’t start off well and it’s been enough time, because you can reset a relationship once enough time passes. You can’t do it like within two days, but if you wait for six months to a year and re-engage the person, it’s almost like you get a clean slate. And do we have time for one more story?

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Here’s how I learned this: Okay, but don’t tell my wife. Hope she doesn’t subscribe to your podcast! So there was this girl. Her name is Layla, and very nice girl, beautiful, very petite, and at the time, I’m still a virgin, so I mean, is she alive? Does she have a heartbeat? Yeah, okay, I’m in so but she was very beautiful, you know, long, black hair, very slim.

And just what happened that we connected at a workplace. When I used to work at Burger King, she came in to work as a cashier, and I was a buzz boy, so I’m like, the lowest on the food chain, right? And she’s this angel, like entity at the cash register,

But what I had going for me is that she was a newcomer into the country, as was I, and we, we kind of connected on that basis.

We went out on a date, but it never really went anywhere, and she kind of disappeared. And I was really upset about that. I still, I was kind of going through that phase like, God, why me? Why don’t I get, like, the good stuff in life? and things like that. I was being a victim!

And then, I don’t know, six months, eight months, 12 months later, I just bumped into her in the post office, I think, some sort of office, and I literally, I bump into her and her mom, and she’s like, Oh, hey. How are you doing? It’s like, Oh, hey. And she’s like, what you know, what are you up to? I was like, I don’t know, nothing. Just working and, you know, just need to get a package going. It’s like, yeah, why don’t you call me? I was like, Okay, sure. Still have numbers, still the same. It’s like, yay. Okay, cool.

But all of a sudden I’m realizing whatever has happened in the past is in the past, and it’s like a clean slate thing. So I gave her a call. We got on a date, and we ended up dating briefly after that.

Now this taught me a big lesson, and that is that even if initially things didn’t work out again in the context of dating, if you wait enough time, you can get a chance to reset the relationship!

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And I’ve had the exact same experience in the joint venture context, with people who I either knew of but it never really went anywhere, or people with whom I’ve got off to a bad start.

I remember I had this relationship go really, really bad with a JV partner. We had a project where I committed to co create a product with him, and it was right around the time when I was moving from Israel to Canada, and I thought I can handle both immigration and this project and running my business.

And I was wrong. Okay, so naturally, I prioritized immigration running my business, and did not prioritize this project, and he counted on me, and he and, I mean, he was right to take it personal, and he just told me to F off.  I called him, I sent him gifts. I mean, I did everything that I apologized like, anything I could think of. And I really felt the guilt of it too. The burden was there, nothing!

Three years later, three years later, I’m talking to somebody, and this guy’s name comes up, and I say, Oh, really. How is he? What is he up to? and we get chatting, and he’s, I don’t know what he’s up to, but he’s like doing well and then I just decide to message him, and I say, Hey, bro, it’s been a long time. I know we got off. You know, I really messed it up. I know! And if you, if you, if you don’t want to talk to me understand, but if you do, I’d love to reconnect. You know, no agenda! We don’t have to do any projects together! I just, I would love to know what’s up.

And we reconnected! It was amazing. We spoke for like, three hours on Zoom. Turns out he got married. Turns out like he had left the industry, switched to a different niche market, does something he’s super passionate about, like just reconnect it!

Then, based on this reconnection, he made an introduction that led to a promotion for me and we, I mean, we are still in touch. And in other words. It’s like I was able, we were able to build it back up, because we let time pass and time, you know, who said it the time heals, or something like that. It truly does! When it comes to relationships, it does!

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