Why I Love Making Mistakes

Ladies and gentlemen, citizens of the list building lifestyle universe, it’s my pleasure to join you as Adam West here to introduce this episode in my computer-generated voice on the list building lifestyle show hosted by the renowned email marketer, Igor Kheifets. Today we’re talking about an important topic and email marketing and business success. In this episode, we’ll discuss how to overcome the fear of making mistakes, something that can hold us back. Learn how embracing mistakes and learning from them is essential for personal growth and financial success. So dear listeners get ready to learn how to overcome fear and achieve the list building lifestyle. Let’s get started.

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When it comes to fear of making mistakes, oftentimes, what’s holding us back, it’s the idea that if I make a mistake, I will embarrass myself, I will be ashamed, other people will see me for less than I really am. And so on and so forth. You know, people think I’m stupid people will think I’m no good, etc. And all that causes all this toxic shame and embarrassment, that would usually you would much rather go and spend more money on another shiny object, then then take action and risk feeling that way. Because we don’t like to feel that way. This is, of course, best to be addressed with the psychologist, psychiatrist, or lots and lots of self-development. From what I learned is that eventually, I guess if you’re old enough, you just learn to ignore it, you just learn to accept it. You know, you just learned to just say you know what, I’m not the smartest, I make mistakes, it’s going to be embarrassing, but it’s okay. With that philosophy, you just smash through your goals, because you just take action, and you don’t, you don’t really care of appearing not good enough or not smart enough or whatever. Because those things hold self-development back, you know, the people who achieved the most, they, they self-development always risk being ridiculed, there was risk being laughed at, there was risk being exposed for not being good enough or smart enough or whatever. But they’re also the ones who are making the most money. They’re also the ones living the best lifestyle. They’re also the ones calling all the shots in their life. They’re also the ones that command, you know, insane amounts of respect. And, you know, they’ve got clout. So, think about that. These things are, you know, they go hand in hand, your ability and willingness to appear stupid to appear not good enough, is directly connected to your ability to actually achieve. That’s a really big lesson. And, you know, when it comes to childhood conditioning, we usually condition our children to do the complete opposite. Like if you ever went to school, and you made a mistake in school, what did you get? Were you encouraged to make an effort? Are you encouraged to do your best? We are encouraged to take a risk, we are encouraged to make a decision. I clearly remember going to school in Ukraine, and in school, depending on the subject, you know, for me, it was usually history, you know, during history class, because I was so confident in the material, because I really loved Ukrainian history. Because there was lots of war in that history. So, lots of blood war, you know, guts on the floor. And we had a good teacher who would also tell us all kinds of battles and stuff. So, I knew the materials. So, whenever a teacher would ask the question, I would always raise my hand, I would always be the first to raise my hand. And at some point, the teacher stopped calling on me because, you know, she realized that I got my material down. You know, there’s no, there’s no question about that. But most other kids were not. Now why do you think it’s because they know if they’re going to raise their hand and say something that isn’t right, the teacher will not necessarily encourage them? Right? Because that would mean that they would make a mistake in front of 32 other kids and that would be embarrassing. In Ukraine at least when I was growing up. Not being Smart was like, you know, embarrassing, like if you were getting bad grades, they would really shame you for it. So actually, the kids who were smartest in class, were getting all the respect. Now, of course, it’s not the case today, especially in the Western society, the coolest kids are not the smartest, they’re more, they’re socially smart, not necessarily academically smart. But if I again, if I remember my high school years, you know, making a mistake was a bad thing. Even during math class, when I was like, working on an equation or something, and I would make a mistake, you know, like, I would write something that wasn’t right, and I would cross it, you know, just for that we were punished in our grade would be lower. Even if I found my own mistake and fixed it. But there was a mistake, I would still get a lower grade. So, you see, the messaging here is don’t make mistakes. Mistakes are bad. Well, when I decided to become an entrepreneur, I had to do a 180 on that. Eventually, it didn’t happen overnight. It took me a few years to understand this lesson. And even today, there are often moments when, you know, part of me really feels the pain of being cold out and making mistakes, especially if it’s, if it’s done by a close person. Or, you know, if it’s done in a room full of people who I want, you know, for those people to respect me. So, you know, you don’t see me going around admitting mistakes. But that’s false. Like, that’s just the wrong way to go about it. If you want to be successful in your online business, you have to almost make friends with mistakes. And you, you, you want to develop this desire, this insatiable desire to go make as many mistakes as humanly possible, fail as often as you can. Because that’s how you get to success. That’s one of the first pieces of advice that John Carlton gave me when I was working with him one on one, you know, it was like, leave your ego at the door. And then he told the story about how when he got into copywriting, you know, his first thought was, I’m going to go and I’m going to fail as fast as I can fail as fast as you can. Because the faster you fail, the quicker you learn the lesson. And the faster you know exactly what to do. Think about that. ponder about that. Tonight, when you’re, you know, watching TV or having less than one on the porch. It’s really, really important to embrace this philosophy that, yes, mistakes are embarrassing, but nothing as embarrassing as dying for nothing is as embarrassing as needing the government to bail you out. Nothing is as embarrassing as recognizing that, you know, the government actually won’t be bailing you out that there’s no one who’s going to help you. There’s only one person that can help you. And that’s you. I think those things are a lot more embarrassing, and a lot more painful. Thank you for listening to the list building lifestyle, get access to the previous episode’s transcript of today’s show, as well as other exclusive content at listbuildinglifestyleshow.com. Also, remember to claim your free copy of my bestselling book at www.igorsbook.com. It explains how I made millions with list building starting from scratch. Plus, I’ll give you $3,000 worth of free bonuses, including my best landing page templates, email, swipe files, and traffic blueprints. 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