How To Go From Thinking To Doing

Have you ever wondered what truly shapes a successful entrepreneur’s mindset? In today’s episode, we delve into the most effective ways to develop a winning mindset. Beyond just reading books. Join us as we explore the power of challenging experiences, learning from mentors and practical strategies to transform your thoughts and actions and get ready to unlock the secrets to building a resilient and focused entrepreneurial mindset.

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I’m Igor Kheifets and this is the List Building Lifestyle, the podcast for anyone who wants to build a wildly profitable email list working from home. If you’d like to make six figures, travel the world and help people improve their lives in the process, this podcast is for you. I also invite you to claim a free copy of my best selling book, the List Building Lifestyle Confessions of an Email Millionaire at igorsbook.com. Get the free book plus $3,000 bonus package that includes my best capture page templates, email swipe files, and traffic blueprints, visit www.igorsbook.com for details. And now it’s time to claim your list building lifestyle.

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As far as mindset books go in general, I think lots of books out there are not really effective. I actually read Noah’s books back when I started. His methodology is all about, you know, rather than saying affirmations, asking them a form of questions, which I do believe is very effective, like asking yourself difficult questions is an effective form of training your mindset. But I do believe there’s a greater mindset than books. And what I also believe is that eventually, we will, you know, those of us who kind of progress and stick to this goal of building our own lifestyle business, what we learn is that you end up learning way more through experience than you do through reading books about mindset. In fact, the best mindset lessons that I’ve ever gotten were two forms of mindset. One is by going through a really challenging experience on my own, meaning that you know, some kind of a challenge or problem that didn’t happen in my business or in my personal life. 

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And then I come out on the other end of it. And that usually results in at least one big mindset shift in that particular department. Now the other. Again, the other really, really good way to improve your mindset is actually not so much with books, although again, I will say that there’s some books that are really, really good on the mindset, for example, anything by Dan Kennedy, anytime I read it, I noticed that my overall mindset and mood is improved. My vacation has improved, my focus on work has improved. My discipline has improved. So kind of feeding off of the energy of the book, you know, it’s very, very contagious for me, anything by Dan Kennedy and a few other authors. But by far the best method, by far, is anytime you can get to spend basically face to face time or on the phone time with somebody who wants to talk so like if you can secure you know any face to face time with anyone who sort of achieved what you wanted to achieve. When just by spending time with that person. 

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You end up taking on lots of, you know a lot of their mindsets. Gary Halbert was really famous for that, by the way here Halbert used to be when he was alive, he used to be considered the greatest copywriter. And you know that this guy was pretty much like the pinnacle of what you can do by putting words on paper and convincing people to give you money like he built incredibly large businesses in niches that none of us would have even been there to get into. So but he was like, unique in that sense, I think and brilliant, brilliant guy. Now, it doesn’t mean that his brilliance isn’t transferable though, because I know two people like I personally know two people who actually went and lived with him. I know that one guy paid him $18,000 for the privilege and the other guy I don’t know how much he paid him. And basically they lived with Gary Halbert, one of them lived with him for three weeks. The other one for I think like a month or two months, if I remember correctly, and they’re both super high level copywriters. 

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They’re both super wealthy. And they can pretty much go into a market on demand with no product and write their way in the form of sales letters, emails, or anything similar. They can write their way to a million dollars. I mean, within six months, probably, you know, if not within the year, and they lived with the guy and they all have different stories about what that experience was like. But what’s common is it’s clear how that changed the way they looked at themselves, the way they looked at the world and the way that they looked at the market or the business. Because spending physical time in the presence of somebody like that literally made them do the things that that person did. 

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And therefore, by taking those actions and change the chemistry of their brain, in the mindset of their worldview, or point of view about whatever it is that we’re trying to achieve, but that said, if you can’t do that, for whatever reason, which I think anyone can do it, but if you can do that, you then seek out authors rather than books that have a tremendous positive influence on the way you think. And you judge that influenced by the results you get, rather than the way you feel about yourself. So that is why old books such as the secret power versus force, the Emotion Code, and a lot of that stuff, including Noah’s books, you know, these books don’t tend to be super effective, they just don’t tend to be super effective as far as like actual outcomes, actual specific, measurable outcomes, right? With that said, though, if I kind of flipped through my bookshelf here, my virtual bookshelf, because I read mostly on Kindle, it’s just very convenient to have it synced between my laptop and my iPad and my iPhone.

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I’d say there are some books that I recommend reading that do have a mindset that has a mindset impact on me personally, yeah, I can’t say whether they’re going to have a mindset impact on you. But they had a mindset impact on me to a point where it changed the way I look at myself, first and foremost. And therefore it changed the way I act. Because as you know, our thoughts dictate our actions or habits. And that changes the results we get. So one book is no more Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover, a very, very important book. It’s both for personal life and business. The other one is the secret of selling anything by Harry Brown, an incredible book as far as I can tell, making you recognize that selling is not a yucky thing to do. It kind of makes you realize that everything you do every single day, is actually selling. And I would even go as far as kind of further specifying based on another book that I recommend reading called Start with a no always start with no by Jim camp, by the late author, Jim Kemp. Basically everything is in negotiation, whether the conversation you’re having inside your own head with yourself, and allowing yourself to get off the hook about, you know, eating that doughnut, or not writing that email that you’re supposed to be writing, whether it’s you having conversation with somebody who has an offer, and asking them for permission to promote it, whether it’s you writing an email to your email list, getting them to buy something, and then either buying or not buying it. Everything is a negotiation, everything. 

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So that’s why the book starts with no is also an important book, because it offers you practical advice on how to better negotiate. And again, that changes your mindset because you can’t change your actions without the mindset changing . The mistake I believe people make when it comes to mindset work is that they want to quote unquote, work on their mindset first, and then go take action, right? That’s like the ark that I’m seeing everywhere. And I was exactly the same way. That’s why I used to read the books, like the secret and everything else. Because I thought I’m going to read the book, it will somehow change my mindset, and I will go and I will take the actions and everything will be nice and groovy. The reality though, if I look over the years, if I look back, my mindsets changed with actions, which is why I believe that anyone ever heard the phrase, fake it till you make it, I believe that’s actually good advice. Fake it till you make it. It does sound like terrible advice because there’s what fake I like to think of it like acting as if, right acting as if rather than saying fake it till you make it feel a little bit better. 

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Because acting as if it is actually pretty good advice. Like, for example, when I was much younger, and I wasn’t very confident about who I am as a person, as a man as a, as a provider, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. And before I succeeded online, I had to act as if to basically win over my future wife. Because if I acted as I was, which is a very insecure person, their late teens would have lots of self pity and self criticism. And, you know, if I just acted like my true self, I don’t think she would ever feel attraction to me. So acting as if it led me to, you know, to meeting her and to winning her over to having kids to building a life to do a lot of really cool stuff. Now, obviously, she knows my true self, but it’s like I had To act as if at first and actually had to act as if a lot in my online business. The first time I sat down to write an email, I had to act as if I knew what I was doing. I had no idea what I was doing. But I had to act as if. And so that’s actually pretty good advice. Because acting as if it gets you involved in situations and actions and scenarios that allow you to go through an experience. And by going through some kind of experience, you change your mindset, it’s kind of like, think of it this way. Let’s say you want to become a really skilled soldier. Let’s say you want to become a Navy SEAL. 

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Can you do it by reading a book? No. Can you understand the mindset of riding a bicycle without actually getting on the darn bicycle? No. And this brings me to another book I highly recommend. It’s called, you can’t teach your kid to ride a bike at a seminar by David Sandler. So that book will teach you the mindset of selling. But it also kind of teaches you that you can’t really learn it by reading about it. You know what I mean? Like, the idea is, you can teach your child or any person to ride a bicycle by giving them a manual, you have to get them on a bicycle. Same thing with a car if I told you how to drive a car, but I wouldn’t let you in one would you learn? Probably not even like citing the book back to me to memorize it. But would you be able to like get in a car and go around like a track or something? No, you wouldn’t be able to do it. So this is no different. Because by doing it by going through the process of doing you get the mindsets, you get the actions you evolve as a person and therefore you’re able to get results. 

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