Your Spouse is Mad, Your Funnel is Broken, and School Just Called

When life and business hit you from all sides at once, most people shut down or escape. In this episode, I’ll show you the skill that allows you to stay calm, focused, and in control, even when everything feels overwhelming.

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Being able to sort of, deal with several things all at once. And I don’t mean that in just the business sense where you’ve got like, “okay, my funnel’s not converting, and my affiliate wasn’t paid, and then my email deliverability is down” or something, so now you’re dealing with three different issues.

It’s more about everything, because life can get overwhelming. It can get demanding. And so, in your business, you can be dealing with an issue, let’s say your funnel’s not converting.

In your personal life, you could be fighting with your spouse about something you don’t agree on. Like wanting, maybe you wanna buy a house in one neighborhood, and your spouse wants a different neighborhood. Or maybe your spouse’s mother is moving in, and you’re not fond of the idea, or something like that, right? So that’s like an issue, that’s an issue.

Then the school is calling you and says that your child is being suspended because they set the cat on fire or something.

So, there could be like a bunch of different stuff kind of heading your way. And you have to deal with every one of these things. You can’t delegate them, you can’t ignore them. Have to be dealt with.

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So, at this point, the only way to deal with it, what do you do? You compartmentalize each issue so you can focus on each of these things separately at a time, right?

In other words, most people would get extremely overwhelmed and shut down. And they would shut down in the sense that they would just refuse to deal with these things, would avoid, would procrastinate, and just bury themselves in something that just feels good.

It could be video games, it could be porn, it could be sweets, it could be alcohol, it could be drugs, it could be anything that people might use to escape, to disconnect from the terrible, terrible reality.

So, there’s like many different ways to escape that, right? We all have that. Some people use phishing, some people use social media, and on and on and on.

But, the skillset of putting each one of these issues into a little compartment in your brain and being able to say to yourself, “okay, I know this problem exists, but I will deal with it later”. That’s a skill. That’s something you learn how to do. That’s not something you’re born with. That’s not something that just comes naturally, at least not for me.

So, it’s a skill you develop, and the further you go with it, the more you build this muscle, the more things you can deal with all at the same time. And each of those things could be of a much larger magnitude.

So it’s kind of like being able, like if it’s a video game, and you’re a hero in a video game, it’s kind of like being able to go from fighting one opponent at a time to be able to deal with two or three opponents at a time, and then to have the opponents to level up, and then now you’re fighting three bosses at the same time. That’s what the skill is about for me. It’s to be able to compartmentalize these things.

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Because, if you think about it, let’s take like an average, like this skill is required if you wanna hit six figures or multiple six figures or seven figures, because let’s say you’re making six figures, you’ve got a product launch you planned out, you’ve got a couple of joint venture deals on the cards you have to do, you’ve got your thing where your lease is expiring, you have to go to renew your lease, your accountant is calling you or emailing you needing like some bookkeeping stuff from you.

Like, there could be lots of different stuff happening, and you still have to deal with all of it. And the more responsibilities you take, the more situations you will find yourself in where you’re gonna have two or three urgent matters heading your way.

So, of course here, besides having a very specific and a very strict approach to your work and to your life in terms of productivity, which really, really helps, really, really helps, especially if you’re really short on time when you work, it’s also important to be okay with not dealing with one of these pressing issues right away and not escaping them either.

Because, most people, they fall into one of the two extremes. They either try to numb it and escape it, which I think is the absolute worst way to do it, or they go to the second option, which is not perfect, but it’s better than the first, and that option is everything is urgent.

Now, if everything is urgent, you’re literally putting out fires all day long. You’re jumping from one thing to another, to another, to another, to another, and then you get so burnt out and so overwhelmed that you just can’t function.

Unless you’ve got ADHD, which is actually, it’s more common than people would think, and then if you’ve got ADHD, you can do a lot of stuff all at the same time. You can be jumping from task A to task B to task C to task, da, da, da, da, and moving an apartment and putting out a fire and buying a dog at the same time, you can do a lot of stuff.

But that’s if you have ADHD. Of course, it comes with a different detriment, and that is inability to finish many of the things you start, and that’s like a whole different story.

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