The Myth of Soulmates

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You’ve been through countless dates, heartbreaks, and maybe even a few near misses. But is there really such a thing as a soulmate, or is it all about compatibility? Igor is here to explore this notion. He’s a firm believer that it’s not about finding that one mythical person who completes you. Instead, it’s about compatibility – finding someone whose habits, values, and personality align with yours. It’s like finding the perfect puzzle piece that fits seamlessly into your life. So, if you’re on a quest to find your soulmate or seeking love later in life, Igor’s insights are your guiding light. By the end of this episode, you’ll have a fresh perspective on love, compatibility, and what it truly means to find your perfect match. 

[00:00] Bill Burr Introduces The Show!

[00:20] In this episode, Igor explores the challenges people face in finding soulmates later in life and even touches on the trend of seeking relationships with partners from different cultures. 

[02:00] The Concept of Soulmates:

  • I don’t believe in soulmates, I do believe in company compatibility.

  • I believe that there are people with habits and personalities that fit really well together on every single level when it comes to relationships.

  • It’s often speculated that if I grew up in Ukraine and later relocated to the United States, I’d likely connect with someone from a similar cultural background, with shared values.

  • As an individual originally from Ukraine, raised in Israel, and now residing in Canada, I frequently witness immigrants pairing up with other immigrants. It’s as if there’s a pattern.

[04:25] Challenges in Finding a Soulmate Later in Life:

  • It’s about being it’s about finding people with similar or identical values that you get along with and preferably you do it when you’re younger. Preferably you would do it when you’re like in your early 20s, maybe late 20s When you’re still mentally agile.

  • Many people who go through divorce around the age of 40 or 50 struggle to find a soulmate in their later years.

  • This challenge arises because they have already solidified their habits, lifestyles, and worldviews.

  • They may lack the mental and emotional flexibility required to connect with someone new. Consequently, they perceive others as incompatible due to differing beliefs, habits, and perspectives on life situations.

[04:50] The New On-Demand Bride Trend:

  • This phenomenon partly explains why there’s a growing trend among individuals in their 40s and 50s, such as truck drivers, to seek relationships with individuals from different cultures, often through mail-order brides or international marriages.

  • They venture to societies where women are traditionally taught to adapt to their partners without expecting major changes.

  • While the ethics of this approach may vary, it underscores the idea that these men resist personal change and desire relationships where they can remain as they are.

  • Additionally, these men often choose younger partners who have yet to firmly establish their personalities and beliefs, allowing the older individuals to maintain their own identities.

  • To drive home this point, consider a particularly extreme case—an ex-KGB agent in his 50s with severe health issues. He openly admitted to his potential partner that he was prone to violence and would not change his ways.

  • Shockingly, this woman accepted this brutal honesty, acknowledging that physical abuse was likely in their relationship. Despite visible injuries, she remained committed to this partnership, perhaps driven by desperation or other motives. In this scenario, can we really speak of soulmates? The answer seems to lie elsewhere entirely.

[08:10] Igor’s Book On Email Marketing:



Igor Kheifets is an amazon best-selling author of the List Building Lifestyle: Confessions of an Email Millionaire.

He’s also the host of List Building Lifestyle, the podcast for anyone who wants to make more money and have more freedom by leveraging the power of an email list

He’s widely referred to as the go-to authority on building large responsive email lists in record time.

Igor’s passionate about showing people how to live the List Building Lifestyle.